Many books have came out to help parents to become good parents or the very least to achieve that good-enough parenting level, in order to face the challenges of raising children.
One thing for sure though, nobody is perfect however a parent try, and it may just be a myth to strive to become a super or the ultimate parent to a child. Being a good enough parent may be just what we need, but we want our children to be more than just average, and so there must be some things that we can do to give our children the very best to start in life and at the same time make our lives easier and fulfilling too.
Your first tip as a parent is to recognize that you are just human, meaning you cannot do everything, you cannot be everywhere, you cannot know everything, and you can commit mistakes. And because parents are also concernwith their own issues, their own problems and hang-ups, it is important that parents would develop the right attitude to face all of these concerns. Right attitude would mean to start from being humble, forgiving yourself for your mistakes, celebrating your successes, learn from the past and focus your sights forward.
Parenting is not the whole component in raising children, and so it is a good guideline for you to recognize that you are only playing a percentage of this role. You are not the only factor in the upbringing of your child because there are outside variables that surround them when they are out of your sight, from influences of friends, teachers, television, magazines, social media, internet, and so on.
Our children are not the only things in our lives, and this is one thing that we as parents must recognize, and so in the process we look at the totality of the family when making decisions.
Another tip for parents is to look at the positives of their children and this means realizing that they can mistakes sometimes too. Forgiving them fast, correcting them gently and move on, and recognizing the things they did right than the wrong, are some parenting attitudes.
If a parent believes in himself or herself, it is a good attitude to make children behave since you are sticking to your guns as the phrase goes. Our children will sometimes challenge our decisions about them, and so in these instances, if it is what is right for them, do not be swayed and do not be hesitant to say no. It would happen that parents make bad decision, but being able to believe in yourself, making decisions and dealing with life’s adversities will give them good example.